Many people find it particularity hard to break the news that they have breast cancer to their loved ones. Some fear that their friends, family or spouse will be hurt by the news.  The truth is that they will be hurt but they will also carry you through the tough times ahead. It is so important for someone who has been diagnosed with any type of Cancer to have a strong network of people to support them. If you find it difficult to tell your friends and family, try these few steps.

1. Think about what you are going to say in advance. Sometimes it is easier to plan out how you are going to break the news. If you are trying to break the news to a spouse or loved one, communicate openly. You may need to talk about the changes that will occur if you are no longer able to work or do certain chores around the house. Discuss how you both can overcome this obstacle. If you have small children and you want to tell them,the best thing to do is to sit them down and explain everything to them in simple terms that they can understand. Tell them what cancer is and how it can affect the body.  Make sure you let them know that cancer is not going to change your relationship with them and that you will still be there to take care of them.

2. Pick a quiet setting to tell them. The best place is probably at home because it is a more intimate setting. If you chose to go out, pick somewhere that is not crowded or noisy. Your family or friends might want to ask questions so you will want to be somewhere where you can talk openly.

3. Include them in on treatment plans. If your doctor has discussed with you a treatment method such as chemotherapy or operation to remove the cancer, tell your family and friends. Include them in on appointments (there may be days you need someone there to help you home). It is important to have a network of people who understand what you are going through.

Including your family and loved ones in your treatment process can be one of the most important steps in finding wellness.  They’re your support team, your cheer leaders, your shoulder to lean on—be sure to share.  They’re there to help you and you may be surprised how many people just want to be a friend during these difficult times.