survivor-story

Tamara

“I don’t really think there is a secret to stay positive throughout this journey, all I can say is to take comfort in whatever it is that brings you peace and indulge yourslef in that. For me, it was praying and journaling.”

I was first diagnosed with breast cancer in September of 2017. I was caring for my mother who had been diagnosed with Stage 4 Metastatic Breast Cancer when I got the call that I now had breast cancer as well. My mother was only given 6 months to livem in which she denied any form of treatment. So hearing that I now was diagnosed with breast cancer was extremely hard because I knew that my time was limited with my mother and having to undergo treatment for the next several months, it would limit my time with her even more. I also dreaded to break the news to my family, that now I too had breast cancer. I didn’t want them to be concerned about me, in our last few months with our mother.

Two months after my diagnosis, my sister was also diagnosed with breast cancer. Shortly after that I went in for my first reconstructive surgery and a few days later I lost my mother along with a dear friend to breast cancer. I was thanking God that the storm was finally ending and that my mother and friend was no longer suffering. But I received another call, my father was just now diagnosed with prostate cancer. That year was emotionally and physically draining, but I fought and beat cancer’s butt! Through the grace of God, I was able to make it through all of those storms and now my mission is to spread the word and educate people about the importance of early detection.

Going through a whirlwind of events, I learned to just let go and let God. There were so many times that I wanted things to go my way but they didn’t and I ended up disappointed. I quickly learned that the way things worked out were not for me to decide, but for God too. Since learning to let go, I stress so much less than I did before. It’s not easy, but I take it one day at a time. I don’t really think there is a secret to stay positive throughout this journey, all I can say is to take comfort in whatever it is that brings you peace and indulge yourslef in that. For me, it was praying and journaling. I was able to turn my journal into a book that I have now self published, “Making it Through the Storm.” I’ve been able to put my time and energy into markeitng this book and it leaves me little time to stress and worry about other pointless things.

I first found out about iGoPink/BCCA through an oranganziation that helped with copay relief. They made such a difference to me during this trying time, allowing me to focus on my treatment plan and kicking cancer’s butt rather than my daily bills. iGoPink helped me with my finances for several months. My car note, water bill AND electrcity were all taken care of! Giving me a peace of mind and stress free few months was just what I needed to keep fighting.

If I could offer any form of advice to the next person battling breast cancer, it would be to let go and let God take control. Praying can do some magical things! And be sure to get the best medical staff for yourself. You are going through enough by being diagnosed with cancer, or even caring for someone with cancer. The last thing you need to worry about it the quality of care. But just remember that every day is a blessing, and be sure to live as such!

 

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