Independently Single on Valentines Day

 Single on Valentine’s Day you say?

According to my mom, I have always been fiercely independent. Moving around a lot and going to boarding school in Japan, most likely, made me that way. I never wanted to fit into a mold. It’s funny, last week my mom sent me these two strikingly different photos of myself; one is me all dolled up in a dance costume and caked on makeup. In the other one I’m mowing our backyard in my dad’s work boots, a stained white t-shirt and white wash capris jeans. Two very different styles and one very independent little girl.

My dad works in the oil industry so I moved around a lot when I was young. I think that’s why it’s always been hard for me to make friends or commit to things. Before high school I lived in 3 different countries and 3 different states. Not to mention when I was 14 my very first ‘boyfriend’ broke up with me through a MYSPACE MESSAGE. Talk about a stab to my self-esteem.

Anyway, this week I was tasked to write about being single, ya know, since Valentine’s Day is next week.

I know that I am not ready for a big commitment like that. If you know me, you’ll know I am possibly one of the most indecisive humans. So why would I risk getting my heart broken or breaking someone else’s heart when it takes me an hour to decide on a Netflix movie to watch? Even then I end up just re-watching The Office or Parks and Rec again. Let’s be real for a second, committing to a 23-minute show is hard enough, how am I supposed to commit to a lifetime with someone??? I’m just not ready and I think this gif really speaks to my current state. 

And you know what?

That’s okay because I am 22 years young and not in any hurry to settle down. Sometimes girls my age have this desire to get married and start having kids before they’ve even graduated college. And that’s fine! But don’t forget we’re all different, not everyone is made to settle down right away. Some of us are ‘finding ourselves.’ I have always been a big believer in the ‘how can you love someone else when you don’t love yourself’ thing.

It has taken me a long time to be okay with who I am and everyone might not be at the place I am. I embrace my independence. Right now, I am focusing on my job, my dogs and learning to love myself. When the right person comes along I’ll know it. I’m waiting for someone to add something to my life, not someone who is there as a convenience.

So, if you needed a sign that Valentine’s Day isn’t a holiday to dread, this is it! As Donna and Tom would say;


 My plans as a single lady on Valentine’s Day?

Cook a nice dinner and share a bottle of wine with myself. Hang out with my dogs and maybe watch a good movie (if I can pick one out!)

Single or not, what are your plans? I’d love to hear them!


-Chelsea Keller

PR & Events Assistant @ iGoPink


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  1. Felly February 6, 2017 at 7:38 pm

    Love this post!!! Sometimes we forget about the single folks around this holiday and forget they can treat themselves, too!

  2. Stacy February 6, 2017 at 8:55 pm

    A nice dinner, movie, wine, and dogs – thank sounds like a dream!

  3. Cassie February 6, 2017 at 8:59 pm

    I feel you on being single on Valentine’s Day, although I’m not dreading it at all this year! Can’t wait to spend the night with my girlfriends and nexflix! Loved the post!

  4. Alison February 6, 2017 at 9:10 pm

    I love your outlook!! I am in a relationship, but because I choose to be, not because I need a relationship to complete me. My independence is so important to me, so it’s important to find a partner who isn’t afraid of that. You go girl! 🙂

  5. Angela S Hathaway February 6, 2017 at 11:45 pm

    My plans? Travel! But anyway, recently my aunt greeted me for my birthday and said she was praying that I would find prince charming. I don’t know if I was offended or annoyed, but I was like, “why would I want prince charming?”

  6. Kelly February 7, 2017 at 8:41 am

    Super awesome! Stay strong and be fabulous just like you are!

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