When our lives, either within the scope of our own immediate reality or in a bigger context, feel like too much to bear, we need tools to help us cope. Overwhelmed by the scale of emotions we are feeling, we start to overreact to situations and these outbursts begin to deteriorate relationships in our lives.
Speaking from experience, I have lived much of my life holding a shield and sword, just waiting for battle, prepared to the extreme. My life has been a tough one, with generational curses of domestic abuse and the overwhelming feeling that there was no way out. The good news is there is a way out, and I made it. The bad news is, sometimes what happens to you on the inside, tends to follow you even once it’s over. I built abundant walls and guarded my heart against the strongest steel beams you can imagine. I was determined that no one would ever control my life again, but me. I became a warrior of a mother, protecting my children from any and everything. My life was a raging storm, a hurricane within myself that I wasn’t sure how to calm.
Until one day, I walked into church and one of the elders asked to pray for me. He said, “What do you see when you look in the mirror?” I answered, “A strong, loving, caring, independent woman.” He said, “Do you know what I see when I look at you? I see control. I see pain. I see determination, but not the good kind. But most of all, I see anger.” I was shocked, I never thought of myself that way, I definitely didn’t think that my face portrayed that. He told me something that I will never forget, he said, no matter what you are going through, we have a God, a mighty, powerful, loving God, who is going through it with you, you are not alone. He gave me instructions on a little thing that helped him in a time of need.
- Every day when you wake up, no matter how you feel, thank God, out loud, for another day.
- For 30 minutes in the morning, listen to worship music, by yourself.
- Every 2 hours, stop and talk to Jesus for 30 seconds.
- Every night before bed, get on your knees and thank him again and say these words: God replace my heart of stone with a heart of flesh. Surround me with your presence and fill me with your spirit. Give me more of you and less of me.
I did this every day, for 30 days. The results are unimaginable. Regardless of your situation, if you are sick, depressed, in a horrible situation and you feel there is no way out; HE is your calm during the storm.