Staying Connected…It’s Harder Than You Think
This past Easter, my husband and I hosted our first Easter in our new home. We had everyone my parents, his parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, sisters. Our home was so jam packed with love and good food it was a recipe for success. Xavian and I relished in every minute of it, catching up with all of our family. Watching everyone get along and enjoy each others’ company. It is truly one of our greatest blessings, such supportive and loving and fun family to have around.
I do usually get slid the “How have you been doing? I feel like we haven’t heard from you.” Which I shockingly did not get that at this gathering. I usually shake it off, because let’s be real my daily life seems to be scheduled from the time I wake up to the time I slip into the sheets at night. Like do I really have an hour to shoot the breeze? Or drive 45 minutes one-way for a quick dinner in the middle of the week? No, but I do have 10 minutes to send my mom a text that is super quick “Hey mom, I love you!” or 5 minutes to order some flowers and send them to my grandparents.
I know I am not the only one. We often squeeze people out of our lives just for the sole fact that we are consumed with our own personal busyness. It does not mean that they are not loved or thought of, it just means that we may be being a little selfish (even if unintentionally). I have a best friend who I literally think the world of. She is the most grounded, down-to-earth, chill, intelligent chick I know. She is and has been my best friend forever, but the past few years she’s lived thousands of miles away in California getting her law degree (like I said intelligent). Sometimes we go months without touching base, but we always slip right back into our groove. We have a strong friendship that does not need to be nurtured, but every good relationship deserves to be nurtured. Staying connected to Ira is hard, but I love every minute when we catch up. It’s so satisfying and eye opening to know we are two people who have undying support for each other through thick and thin. We tend to start off with apologies for being completely out of the loop – but we both understand that life is happening.
There are so many important people that our put into our lives. Your support system is the base of wellness, staying healthy and happy. My husband, my family, my closest and best friends seem to be my parachute keeping me safe and supported through life. So why am I close to cutting strings — because I feel I’m too busy? That is so detrimental to my relationships. It takes 10 minutes to send a quick back and forth text. Or 30 minutes out of my weekend to catchup on a long-distance friendship. Whether you are fighting the battle of your life or just trying to make it through your Monday know that you have a support system. It just may take a little effort to connect and reach out.
What are your favorite ways to keep connected? Do you feel like you lose touch with some of the people closest to you? I would love to hear your thoughts and stories as I try to improve on my connections.